Barrie Shepley's Personal Best Weekly Update #243
Monday June 6th, 2005

Dear PB Readers,


Life is about timing and my timing couldn't have been better this past weekend. I was in Madrid, Spain as an invited guest to host an internet show around the Madrid World Cup Triathlon and work on the international television commentary. Three major things were going on in Madrid this past weekend. First, the World Cup Triathlon had the biggest elite field of the summer racing in Spain. Second, Spanish tennis superstar Rafael Nadal made the final of the French Open Tennis Championship. Finally, hundreds of thousands of enthusiastic 2012 Olympic volunteers were out on the streets showing their support for Madrid's 2012 Olympic Bid.

Madrid is just four weeks away from finding out whether they will be selected for the 2012 Summer Olympic Games. A finalist against Paris, London, New York City and Moscow, the energy in this Spanish nation is fantastic. With the vast majority of the sporting venues already built and one of the best subway systems in the world, Madrid is a very strong candidate for the 2012 Games. Having been a part of Toronto's 2008 Olympic Bid under the direction of John Bitove, I can remember the energy in the volunteers and the local citizens.

Madrid is a city of four million people, but you don't feel crowded in this sophisticated city. A balance of old castles and new buildings - Madrid is one of the world's greatest cities. The race organizers have found an incredible park (larger then New York's Central Park) with a small, clean lake and 8km of beautifully paved, hilly roads for the bike and run elements of the triathlon. Add two big screen televisions in front of the grandstands and 250,000 spectators around the course and you have the makings for an incredible event. The race organizers had 14 camera men stationed around the course so that I had non-stop visuals to announce to the enthusiastic crowd. For more details of the 2005 race see www.triathlon.org for pictures and video clips. By the time you are reading this newsletter I will be in the air back to Caledon and the start of another exciting summer week.

We had a huge number of new PB readers this week. Thanks to each of you who passed on emails of family and friends and to those who contributed stories and ideas. My newsletter is simply a by product of your contributions. Send your new names and stories to barrie@personalbest.ca and keep checking our website at www.personalbest.ca. Have a great week.

JUNE 6th PB HIGHLIGHTS

* JOHN WOODEN QUOTE ON THE ACHIEVING YOUR POTENTIAL
* STEVE GOODIER ASKS "HOW BIG IS YOUR FRYING PAN?"
* MOTIVATING OTHERS TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE
* PB EMAIL OF THE WEEK
* CANADIAN PADDLERS OFF TO THEIR BEST SPRING IN DECADES
* SPECIAL THANKS TO GOLFERS

JOHN WOODEN QUOTE ON ACHIEVING YOUR POTENTIAL

"Don't measure yourself by what you have accomplished, but by what you should have accomplished with your ability."

EDITOR'S NOTE: This is a very important yet difficult concept for parents, teachers and coaches to get through to their children, students, and athletes. More often then not, our children are encouraged by society "to just be average". Those individuals trying to achieve excellence above "the norm" are often met with criticism by envious and less focused people around them.

I have to continually remind my athletes that they ARE NOT NORMAL! While they are no more important than any of their peers, they are anything but normal. John Wooden's quote on measuring yourself against your potential is important for all of us!

STEVE GOODIER ASKS "HOW BIG IS YOUR FRYING PAN?"

Are you setting your sights too low? I heard of a woman who fished all morning and never caught anything. But a man in the next boat was reeling in a fish every time she glanced over. Then, to make matters worse, he kept the small ones and threw the large ones back into the water! She couldn't stand it any longer. She called over to him, "How come you're throwing the big ones back?" He answered by holding up a little frying pan.

We may think that is silly but, in our minds, don't we all hold up frying pans? Every time we throw away a big idea, a magnificent dream or an exciting possibility, are we measuring it against a small frying pan? We talk about making more money or be­coming more successful, but I believe that this con­cept works in other, and sometimes more important areas, as well. We can love more than we ever dreamed possible! We can be happier and live more fully than we ever thought we could! What we can do or become is limited more by the size of the frying pan in our minds than by actual circum­stances.

Author Brian Tracy reminds us that "you are not what you think you are, but what you think, you are." Think big. Dream big. Pray big... and look for big results. It all begins with changing the size of your thinking. What would happen if you threw away the frying pan you have been using to measure the size of your dreams, and replaced it with a larger one? What would happen if you decided that it may really be possible to have a better relationship with the one you love, or that you actually can be hap­pier and more fulfilled than you are now? What would hap­pen if you decided never to settle for anything less than what you truly want? What if, from now on, you threw the little fish back and kept the big ones? And what if you decided to begin today?

MOTIVATING OTHERS TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE

One of the greatest honours I get is personal calls or emails from people who have changed their lives because of a meeting or seminar I have run. Last year I was a keynote speaker at a conference at McMaster University. Sitting in the audience was a very normal woman named Anita Toth who wanted to find a way to make a difference in the lives of under-privileged children. Below is Anita's fantastic story of turning a setback into a success for society and a big reason why I love doing motivational talks!

Dear Barrie. Back in 2002, I tore a tendon in my right leg and went from being very active to having to use handicapped parking to get around. I thought back to my childhood when I was a competitive swimmer and how I had developed so many life skills that have been invaluable to me since my youth. I decided that if I could no longer participate in sport then I wanted to be able to give kids a chance to experience what I had been given through my swimming career.

While browsing the internet I came across KidSport, a national program which helps economically challenged children become involved in sport. The program pays for registration and/or equipment grants to ensure children can play regardless of their economic status. I found out there was no chapter in the Hamilton area where I live, but that I was more than welcome to start one. Being new to the area with few contacts the odds seemed long of me being able to start such a huge undertaking.

In 2004, I met you at a retreat where you presented on the power of having an important dream. We spoke after your talk and shared with you my dream. With your suggestion of some Hamilton area contacts and some positive enthusiasm, I was able to find the key person to help this project become a success.

Now less then two years after my dream, we are officially launching KidSport Hamilton on June 18th. I never in my wildest dreams thought that I could be a part of something so big. I am thankful that I was able to overcome my fears (and there were a lot) and commit to trying this. The individuals that have joined me in developing this chapter have been some of the best people I have ever met. KidSport Hamilton would not be what it is today without their support, input and dedication. Thanks for your confidence. Sincerely. Anita Toth


EDITOR'S NOTE: I believe there is nothing more important then our nation's children. Starting with parents, moving to teachers, coaches and caring volunteers, we all have an important role to play in developing our nation's most important resource. Hundreds of Hamilton area children will benefit (likely forever) because of the kindness and generosity of Anita Toth and her KidSport Hamilton Chapter.

I think it is very important to review why KidSport Hamilton will be successful and why my email last week (to the person who wanted to ride across USA to raise funds for kids) will likely come up short. Remember.

It starts with a dream (both projects had that). Then it needs a well thought out plan (clearly KidSport had a great one and our cycling project likely was a little thin on the planning stage). Lastly and most important - you need a motivated support team to help execute your plan and make those BIG DREAMS COME TRUE. In less than two years Anita and her team went from a DREAM to a reality. Follow those simple steps and you will be amazed at what you can accomplish.

PB EMAIL OF THE WEEK

Barrie you have often spoken about "paying it forward" in your newsletter. People who help others, who in turn use that kindness to help others. On my journey through life, I have learned that when we give to others we feel better about ourselves. What I have also learned is that there is a balance in the universe. We give, we get, we win, we lose, we create holes in our lives, the universe fills them, etc.

Yesterday, a colleague told me of a gift he wanted to give to my 86 year old mother. I was grateful that he was thinking of her. On the way home I dropped in to the local grocery store and a young man approached me outside the store and said, "Excuse me, could I bother you and ask if you could give me one loonie? My wife called me at work and asked me to pick up a loaf of bread and when I got here I realized I only have .50 cents and my wallet is at home." I gave him a loonie knowing that at some point in the future he will help another in need (perhaps someone we care about) S.C.

CANADIAN PADDLERS OFF TO BEST SEASON IN DECADES

I may be a little biased, because these great athletes came out to my wife's power yoga classes all winter long. Last weekend Adam van Koeverden, Tamas and Attila Buday and Carrie Lightbound had one of their best ever paddling regattas. While van Koeverden won gold and bronze in Athens, the Buday brothers were 8th in the quadrennial paddling event. Last weekend all won gold! Sometimes you don't fully appreciate how hard other groups work. Having seen how hard the paddlers work, I am not surprised by their international success. While the right attitude and great coaching are their biggest assets, I want to believe Caron's help at fully developing and balancing their core strength might have played some small role. If anyone would like to purchase Caron Shepley's Dryland Power Yoga for Athletes, you can get the video directly from her website at www.bluedogyoga.com or email caron@personalbest.ca

SPECIAL THANKS TO THOSE WHO GOLFED

While I had to catch my flight to Madrid before the silent auction ended, the 3rd Annual C3 Golf Tournament fundraiser was a huge success. A sunny day, 22 foursomes, and a chance for many of you to meet Canada's finest Triathletes. Special thanks to Lisa Bentley our keynote speaker and to the many that volunteered, and donated to this important cause. Keep the first Thursday in June 2006 open in your daytimer.

TRY TO MAKE A DIFFERNCE IN THE LIVES OF AT LEAST ONE PERSON THIS WEEK!